Something has been coming up for me a lot lately, and I feel so compelled to share it with you. It’s attachment to identity labels.
“I am broken” “I am damaged” “Im not funny friend” I’m too poor” “Im stubborn” Im ___ this or I’m ____ that. These are all labels we use to define ourselves or our state of being.
At some point in all of our lives, I think we can agree that we were labeled as one thing or another, or we heard an expression that resonated with a part of us.
We latched onto it in a desperate attempt to fill the hole in our identity.
Whether this trails back to lack of a sense of self due to insecurity, codependency issues or being pressured to be a person externally who didn’t align with their internal needs and desires…we’ve all done it. We have tied ourselves to these nouns and adjectives, and personify these roles as if that’s who we innately are.
The problem with this is it creates a very small window for growth, change and opportunity.
The mind is powerful. Once it’s made-once it’s fixated on being what you’re only convinced you already are, your life adjusts in proportion to that state. Your environment will match that which you have accepted- that which you are emitting vibrationally.
For example, any time I’ve felt like I was low or in a dark place, I’ve thought to myself “wow I am so depressed”.
Without learning the habit of interrupting that thought…it’s an effortless endeavor for your brain to accept it and hop on board with your state of being, sending any sense of peace or happiness further and further away. That’s what I consider a slow spiral.
Instead of identifying with that thought, and adopting that belief as who I am, I’ve learned to practice “witness observation”. Acknowledge it without becoming the person that embodies that feeling and statement. Without denying OR accepting it.
The beauty of being untethered to definitions that were created by others-others who do not know our personal truth- is that we can seek peace and authenticity by being in a constant state of ebb and flow. We’re not absorbed in fulfilling roles that limit us. We’re not creating subconscious boundaries and barriers that block us from reaching any personal or professional goal we have. We’re not carrying around an identity placed on us by others.
We are ultimately free.
